This message is for any couple, particularly couples with May, June and July weddings planned, facing the decision of whether or not to postpone their wedding amidst the coronavirus pandemic.
I’d like to start off by saying that you are not alone and your feelings are valid. The decision to postpone your wedding is painful, difficult, and filled with anxiety - BUT - the way you handle it does not have to be.
First you just need to stop and think. Take some deep breaths and look at the entire situation. Once you de-clutter your brain, things will become more clear. When it comes down to it, marriage is a commitment between two people and a wedding is a party that can be rescheduled. Postponement does not change your commitment to each other.
If you've been planning a big wedding and your heart is set on having the same wedding with the same amount of people, then you must consider some of the following: 1. Everyone's health and safety - especially your elderly guests. Are you prepared to put loved ones at risk? 2. Would your guests be comfortable attending such a large gathering? 3. With many people currently out of work, would your guests be financially stable enough to make the trip to your wedding after barely getting back to work? 4. Are you okay with having to downsize your guest count if the large gathering ban has not been lifted by then? 5. Have you had to cancel any other wedding related events? If you have, is the memory of having to do this going to affect your happiness leading up to your wedding? After discussing each of those points, then you can come to a conclusion of whether to continue or postpone. As painful as it is to come to that conclusion, you will probably realize that you want everyone at your wedding - you don't want to have to cut it down to a small gathering of 10 people.
Sometimes waiting for things in life makes everything that much better. It’s not an easy decision and it’s ultimately up to you and what you want. Maybe a small wedding would be perfect for you and then have a big postponed party. It could be better to just wait for things to calm down and plan everything for next year. I hope couples out there facing this decision can find comfort in knowing that you can still have the wedding of your dreams, you just have to take control of the situation and make the best of it. Don't let this virus dictate the outcome of your special day. Postpone if that means you'll be happier knowing that nothing has to change except the date.